birthdays and beginnings

     Having my birthday on a holiday like Valentine's Day and also having the last name Hart has been a very interesting conversation piece throughout my life.  It is a great way to share information about yourself in a way that often brings a smile to the faces of those you tell.  And I always like to make people smile....

     Nothing brings me more pleasure than to be with others and generate laughter, smiles, and a sense of joy.  So here I am, just a few days into my 58th year and I have been reflecting on the new beginning that each birthday gives to us...a gift if you will....to be received and hopefully used to its fullest in the coming year.  For whatever reason this notion has really struck me this year. Odd it has only taken 57 years to pass for me to come to some significant realizations.  I believe that many of them will not only change my approach to how I proceed with the rest of my life, but will help me in my management of RA. 

     Yes, indeed.  We need to be open to fresh starts and new goals forever!  Shooting for new heights to achieve gives our lives meaning and purpose.  Don't "settle" when you can have so much more!  If we do, we will simply exist and that is surely not the way I want to conduct my life.  And this is a message that applies to RA as well.  If you are not open to new goals (a little more physical activity for instance) you are not managing your disease in a way that will provide you with any degree of relief.  

By shooting for the moon you can land on the stars....a great place to be by anyone's standards.  I want to live my life in a way that says failure is not a negative but rather a lesson to be learned in an effort to accomplish my goals. 

     What would you attempt to do if you knew you could not fail? What a great question this is...think about that the next time you are trying to decide what to do in life.  This surely applies to RA management.  Just imagine if you knew that every time you opened your mind to a new treatment or suggestion for a way to better manage your RA, you knew it would succeed.  That would, without any doubt, make you much more open to trying them out.  Well, I am going to try to assimilate this into my coming year.  I want to consider that it will succeed and go from there instead of the other way around...which we have often been programmed to do.  I understand why....disappointments can lead to having that negative approach and to closing our minds off in an effort to avoid failure and the disillusionment that comes with it.  But...it also means that any chance of success is greatly reduced.  That is not how I am going to live.   

     The fresh start that each new year of my life brings is something I intend to celebrate.  It really is a chance to let go of whatever may have held you back and to explore new options.  I love the lessons the ocean teaches us and one of them is really simple yet quite eloquent.

     Just as the ocean tide each day sweeps out the "footprints" of the day before and leaves a beach untouched and new so we can start each day with a new outlook, wiping clear the "footprints" of the days prior, open to new adventures, new options, fresh beginnings.  Only then can we truly learn to manage chronic disease.  

    Seize the day has always been a favorite tenent of mine and in this new found time of reflection I now understand that it applies completely to RA management.  We have to learn to grab and hang on to each and every wonderful moment when the pain has subsided, when a treatment is working, when an experience presents itself that we can enjoy despite the RA.  Our lives will be so much better for it.

     Many times in the past I have found myself feeling sad as holidays unwind, my sons head back home, vacations end.  I have been trying to flip that around and not feel sad in those moments and this wonderful quote by Dr. Suess really presented me with the perspective I needed.  So as my next year of life begins, I will focus on the joy of those events, not crying because they are over and done, but smiling because the memories and joys of those times are so wonderful and with the knowledge that there are more to come.  Again as it applies to RA, I want to focus on the successes of the past year, no matter how few they may be, and take the positive attitude into my new year.

     I intend to live my next year knowing that I am braver than I believe, stronger than I often give myself credit for, and smarter than I may think I am sometimes.  With those new attitudes in place, it will help me to be confident in my ability to manage my RA, to advocate for myself when the need arises, and to find the right options for my own unique set of circumstances.

     A particularly tough one for me and for many of us with the body distorting consequences of RA, is the notion of not letting my body image get in the way of having a great next year.  It is difficult enough to age in this society of ours that has so little respect or appreciation for the aging body without throwing the body changing effects of RA into the mix.  I am resolving to work especially hard on this one next year.  I will do my best to "see" the beauty in myself when I glance in the mirror.  Funny how seeing a photo of myself from years ago, long before RA, triggers me to ask "where did that woman go?".  Well, the truth is, she is still there below the surface, wiser, more open to new things, less judgmental, more curious than ever.  That is what I will look for in the mirror from now on...

     And so as I start my "next year" I feel blessed with a new outlook that will allow me to "soar to new heights" and in so doing better manage my RA.
Nan