It is totally possible to learn how to be flexible and it is a very necessary and helpful tool to acquire when dealing with chronic disease. Without it, you tend to not only end up filled with stress and tension but you also are potentially loosing some options that might allow you to move forward with your management of RA. Understanding that Plan A may NOT be the best choice is very critical!
Case in point for me....prior to agreeing to and eventually having both feet surgically rebuilt (successfully I might add) I dragged my feet (no pun intended) about getting it done as I continued to follow Plan A which was deal with the pain, the lack of mobility instead of having the surgery. Once I was WILLING to seriously consider Plan B (the surgery) I could then objectively examine the pros and cons to see which course was the best one to take.
There is nothing wrong and everything to gain to use this approach across the board when making decisions about any of the issues we face with RA. That goes for choices of treatment, exercise options, social gatherings, chores, etc. You name it, you can use this approach. It really is a systematic way to sort through what can be some serious challenges.